It has been quite some ‘time’ since I last wrote on here. With being inspired by oh sooo many things, it often becomes challenging to integrate it all and sit down to write about only 1 topic. I want to say it all about every relevant experience that has recently come into my scope of perspective. But very often, that leaves me saying nothing at all. Which is not necessarily a “bad” thing. In this state of silence and inner contemplation, I am able to more clearly see and feel my truths. Lately there is a topic that has been coming up and up again – personal boundaries for energetic authenticity. The persistence of this topic has urged me to get to the computer and type on this blog again. Thank you Divine Inspiration!
It seems like everyone we know chooses to keep people or things in their lives that no longer serve them but they believe that they “have to” keep them around. Anything coming from that “have to” mentality is unhealthy and very much untrue. In life, we don’t have to do anything! – we get to! Healthy relationships (to people, places, things, etc.) inspire and uplift us! We feel seen, understood, and connected. Our new ideas and visions are able to more easily take form in the presence of such upliftment and genuineness. On the contrary, relationships which are way past their expiration date feel like an energy drain every time we interact within them. Feeling unexplainably tired after you visit your old-time favorite bar and drink with your childhood buddies? That may not be because you had way too many drinks or because the “Groundhog Day”-type conversation bored you to your wit’s end. It may also be your body and spirit’s way of alerting you that it is time to let go of the old to fully let in the new! The body is divinely conscious ~ especially if we listen to it. Perhaps you knew long ago that those friends and that place was bringing you down (or holding you back!) but you never built up the courage to let it go, because that old pattern can be a bitch to break. In this new era, where every moment truly matters, it is best for our health to ensure that we are really loving and connecting with the moment – the sights, the sounds, the people, the feelings. If you aren’t vibing with it, shift it! No shame in wanting the most brilliant best for yourself! Don’t let the stagnation of the masses lead you to distract your attention in moving forward. We are ALIVE. And the inherent quality in everything that is alive is to GROW. It may feel selfish at first to block out the distractions, but really, it is best for you and everyone around you. In serving yourself and your truths, you are upping the vibe on this planet! If you don’t do that, then who else will? Self-love leads to more love reflected to us from the outside world. I think you’ll be amazed at how quickly your life transforms and how vibrantly you feel your energy surge back. Just because someone is a blood relative or a lifelong “friend” does not grant them permission to abuse you or create illusory cords of attachment to you. Do not let the projections of their fear and unintegration hold you back! Cut the cords and revive yourself! True love knows no conditions.
“No” is a complete sentence. Be brave in setting up those healthy boundaries in your life. Remove people & things that divert you from your path. If they don’t inspire or elevate you – move on. There is no more time to waste! Saying no to energy vampires is saying yes to you. My great friend Laura Bruno recently created a wonderful blog post with excellent sources on the topic of “Narcissism.” It is titled “Lightworkers, Forgiveness and Narcissism: Just Find the Relief.” Reading that post really opened my eyes more and helped me to realize that if you are doing the work, owning up to your own reality, and wishing to create the very best in life – yet there are people that continually project their negativity onto you – it may not be that they are just “bringing stuff up” for you, but perhaps it’s time to set those relationships aside. You may be dealing with a narcissist. Until those people can look in the mirror and own up to their own creations, it is best that you quietly go about your focused and brilliant life. Yes we can definitely help others! But be wary of when that helpfulness starts to bite at you. There is no need to take on anyone else’s junk! I have been simplifying as much as I can in my life and have been discovering that this cleansing really is freeing up so much energy so that I can focus more on new ideas, new paths, new awakenings. These quote by one of my favorites, Henry David Thoreau, are really resonating with my right now:
- I had three pieces of limestone on my desk, but I was terrified to find that they required to be dusted daily, when the furniture of my mind was all undusted still, and threw them out the window in disgust.
- Let us first be as simple and well as Nature ourselves, dispel the clouds which hang over our brows, and take up a little life into our pores. Do not stay to be an overseer of the poor, but endeavor to become one of the worthies of the world.
- If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.
I would rather sit solo in meditative contemplation than have my focus scattered to multiple trivialities, power struggles, dramas, etc. To those lovely Monks who meditate on mountaintops day-in and day-out ~ thank you! Through increasing your own inner light you are helping us increase ours. And to realize that it is healthy for us to do that.
Stay in your light! Does the Sun get distracted by the clouds? . . .